The picture above makes me feel sort of sick to my stomach. Seriously, I find the idea of a woman using her body as a virtual non-stop baby-birthing machine disgusting - and a man who would agree to it equally so. As much as some people tell me they are horrified by abortion, I am horrified by a couple who define themselves by their aptitude for continuous breeding. As much as some people accuse the low income clients I work with of having babies to collect a bigger welfare check (which is rarely true), I think the Duggars have made having and exploiting their children their profession.
I don't believe you can be good parents to 20 kids. It's one thing for siblings to help out with their younger brothers and sisters but not when there are 20 of them. With that many, I believe that what you essentially do is force your other children into servitude by using them as babysitters and cooks and housekeepers and dishwashers and launderers.
No one can give individual loving focus to so many. There simply isn't enough time and attention to go around when divided by 20. How do you home school that many children when they are all ages and all at different levels of learning? Is that simply another position assigned to the others?
Most mothers I know would agreeably admit that they sometimes become stressed and frazzled with only four children, or only three or two, or sometimes only one. I can't even imagine what it must be like to be responsible for 20, unless as I said, you rely on the others to be responsible in your place.
Here is a Duggar recipe for: Chicken and Noodles.
- 8 cans cream of chicken soup
- 10 T. Mex. chicken bouillon
- 17 c. water
- 1 onion chopped (or 1 T. onion powder)
- 4-5 bags egg noodles
- Chunks cooked chicken (optional)
- Pepper to taste
- Boil Soup, Bouillon, Water, & Onion. Boil 5 min.
- Add Noodles & chicken. Pepper either in pot or at table. Yummy!
Really? The chicken is optional? Go to the Duggar recipe page and you will find that meat is in short supply in most of their recipes. Of course, it is. Even families who make lots of money on reality t.v. probably can't afford the amount of meat it would take to make a dish, well, good. This recipe is called chicken and noodles but it is really just noodle soup.
I don't know too much about the Duggars. I haven't read about them because their lifestyle truly does make me sort of nauseated. I assume it is their religion that makes them what they are because what else would it be except a very harsh and fundamentalist religious denomination that would forbid contraception and believe it was a glory to God for a woman to give birth to 20 children.
How many kids the Duggars have is really none of my business. I'm not trying to stop them from living their faith, as crazy as I think it is. (I wonder if the Duggar kids will all follow in their parents' footsteps? Even if they only average ten offspring apiece, that is 200 new Duggars just in the next generation!)
What always upsets me about Christian fundamentalists (well, religious fundamentalists of any kind, for that matter) is that while they expect to have their most far-out beliefs respected, they rarely extend the same understanding to those who follow a different path.